One of the problems with American society is the scale on which women rate each other. As I mentioned in our earlier post, women usually compare themselves to other women and see how they add up. When you compare yourself, you either think that the other woman is more beautiful than you, or you think that you are more beautiful than her. As Beth Moore states in her book, So Long, Insecurity, "We fall headlong to one side with inferiority or swan-dive to the other side with superiority. A bloody tumble is inevitable either way." (p.279)
We usually act upon the feelings that are within our hearts, instead of the logical thoughts within our minds. Let me tell you something that the Lord shared with me, "Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you." That quote is from Matthew 7 verses 1 and 2. This means that we are not to judge others, because if we do, we can surely expect to be judged in return. Similarly, if we compare ourselves with other women, most likely, they are going to be comparing ourselves with them. Now, perhaps you're thinking, "If I don't judge other women, that doesn't mean they won't judge me." And this may be true. But at least you can rest assured knowing that you are making an effort to not compare yourself to any other woman or size her up. I know some women who have a chronic problem with insecurity and jealousy, and unfortunately, they may never change. But at least you can do your part and refuse to compare yourself with another woman. This will give you peace of mind. You will learn how to trust in the Lord, while the other woman is still suffering from her faulty comparisons.
